Heather
Written on Dec 31, 2018
You know what you are getting into if you've read this author previously. This is the story of an Italian family told from the time the protagonists are teenagers until their deaths. The writing is sparse. Small pieces of time will be discussed in detail and then years will pass between paragraphs.
I was intrigued by the premise, especially this line from the blurb - "Which of them will put their ambitions aside to raise a family and which will pursue a career?" I was hoping this was going to be a book that discussed the stereotypical gender roles of a post-WWII marriage and possibly subverted them. My hopes were high as the beginning of the book shows Chi Chi was infinitely more talented and more ambitious than Tony.
All this was swept aside quickly though once the marriage happened. I'm not even sure why it happened. I found their "courtship" incredibly uncomfortable as he basically badgers her into giving up her dreams because he decided that he was in love with her when in her mind they were just old friends. This is followed by affair after affair until a divorce and then she still supports him through several more marriages all the while closing herself off completely to the idea of finding love.
"Duty-bound love is the Italian girl's area of expertise. The Italian woman is a master craftsman at the art of sacrifice."
I don't think that this is a good thing. This story is about a woman who sacrificed everything that she was to a man who couldn't be bothered to care. I found it infuriating and ultimately depressing to read about. I understand that this is much more likely to be historically accurate than a book about people supporting each other in their careers. That is part of the reason why this book made me so angry. This is about a time and attitudes that we have hopefully begun to move past. This review was originally posted on Based On A True Story