How to They/Them: A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity

by Stuart Getty

Brooke Thyng (Illustrator)

"This tender, smart, personal book is a gift. Stuart Getty generously shows us, with witty illustrations and kind humor, the hows and whys of they/them pronouns. A wonderful and necessary resource that is a delight to read."
-Michelle Tea, author of Modern Tarot and Valencia

What does nonbinary really mean? What is gender nonconforming? And isn't they a plural pronoun? In this charming and disarming guide, a real-life they-using genderqueer writer unpacks all your burning questions in a fun, visual way. No soapboxes or divisive comment-section wars here!

Sometimes funny, sometimes serious, always human, this gender-friendly primer will get you up to speed. It's about more than just bathrooms and pronouns--this is about gender expression and the freedom to choose how to identify. While they might only be for some, that freedom is for everyone!

"[A] clear, kind guide to gender nonconformity. Getty's cheeky tone and the punchy black-and-white illustrations by Brooke Thyng make this book a useful reference for anyone with questions about gender, whether their own or those they witness in the larger world."
-Booklist

"Straightforward, practical, relevant navigation through the radiant world of gender fluidity."
-Kirkus Reviews

• ISBN10: 1632173131
• ISBN13: 9781632173133
• Publish Date: 29 September 2020
• Publish Status: Active
• Out of Print: 31 December 2021
• Publish Country: US
• Imprint: Sasquatch Books
• Format: Hardcover
• Pages: 140
• Language: English
• URL: https://penguinrandomhouse.com/books/isbn/9781632173133

Reviews

[Liam]

[The ARC of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.]

What I liked:
• This was such a cute (and funny) book!
• This book explains everything from gender identities to grammar and being an ally to trans people, and it’s very easy and fun to read.
• I think “How to They/Them” will be very helpful for cis allies and also trans people who want to start using they/them pronouns.

What I didn’t like:
• “They is a gender identity” – No!!! They is a pronoun, and anyone (no matter which gender) can use it!
• Some of the definitions for gender identities and sexual orientations were… weird. Not completely wrong, but weird.