Kim Deister
Written on Oct 25, 2010
Being a 40 year old white woman, I am probably not the demographic for which this book was intended. But I literally could not put this book down. Yes, race and interracial dating were the main themes of this novel, but the themes of love, dissatisfaction, and self-discovery were completely universal. The opening scene in which Tammy discovers that her boyfriend is cheating is a perfect example of this. Black or white, a woman feels the same kind of pain when she discovers that she has been betrayed by the man she thought she loved.
The varying viewpoints of the different characters really made you think outside your own experiences and gave a level of understanding that you might not have had otherwise. At first, being a white woman, the attitudes of Sheryl really bothered me, but as I learned more about her, I began to understand the reasons behind her feelings. And while I may see the race issue differently, I could understand why she felt the way that she did. Tammy's struggles with men, reminded me of my own, even if the circumstances were different. I appreciated the honesty in the telling of her story, of her "relationship" with a white man. Terrill's own journey of self-discovery of his own issues with dating women of his own race was eye-opening as well. It really showed how someone else's viewpoint on your choices can make you think, and make you realize that you could be totally wrong. Penelope's struggle between her love for a black man and her racist upbringing was heartwrenching for me. The narrow-mindedness of her father and brother goes against everything I, as a reader, stand for and that made that part of the story emotional for me.
As I said, I could not put this book down, reading it in less than a day. I loved every part of it and the fact that it really made me think. The characters were real and well-developed, from main characters to the minor. The writing quality was excellent, but entirely real, even raw in places. I would highly recommend this book!