We Are Okay by Nina LaCour

We Are Okay

by Nina LaCour

Winner of the 2018 Michael L. Printz Award — An achingly beautiful novel about grief and the enduring power of friendship.

Short, poetic and gorgeously written.” —The New York Times Book Review

“A beautiful, devastating piece of art.
" —Bookpage

You go through life thinking there’s so much you need. . . . Until you leave with only your phone, your wallet, and a picture of your mother. Marin hasn’t spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best friend Mabel. But even thousands of miles away from the California coast, at college in New York, Marin still feels the pull of the life and tragedy she’s tried to outrun. Now, months later, alone in an emptied dorm for winter break, Marin waits. Mabel is coming to visit and Marin will be forced to face everything that’s been left unsaid and finally confront the loneliness that has made a home in her heart.
 
An intimate whisper that packs an indelible punch, We Are Okay is Nina LaCour at her finest. This gorgeously crafted and achingly honest portrayal of grief will leave you urgent to reach across any distance to reconnect with the people you love.

Praise for We Are Okay 

Nina LaCour treats her emotions so beautifully and with such empathy.” —Bustle

★ “Exquisite. —Kirkus

★ “LaCour paints a captivating depiction of loss, bewilderment, and emotional paralysis . . . raw and beautiful.” —Booklist

★ “Beautifully crafted . . . . A quietly moving, potent novel.” —SLJ

★ “A moving portrait of a girl struggling to rebound after everything she’s known has been thrown into disarray.” —Publishers Weekly

★"Bittersweet and hopeful . . . poetic and skillfully crafted." —Shelf Awareness

“So lonely and beautiful that I could hardly breathe. This is a perfect book.” —Stephanie Perkins, bestselling author of Anna and the French Kiss

As beautiful as the best memories, as sad as the best songs, as hopeful as your best dreams.”
—Siobhan Vivian, bestselling author of The Last Boy and Girl in the World

“You can feel every peak and valley of Marin’s emotional journey on your skin, in your gut. Beautifully written, heartfelt, and deeply real.” —Adi Alsaid, author of Never Always Sometimes and Let’s Get Lost

Reviewed by Amber (The Literary Phoenix) on

4 of 5 stars

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I’m glad I read We Are Okay because it was a good-to-read book. However, it’s not a memorable book.

There are scenes, particularly at the beginning of this novel, that stood out to me aesthetically. Marin sitting in her desk chair at the top of her dorm building, staring out the window at the empty expanse below. The pottery shop just as the storm was about to hit. There are nuances in the writing that were quite good. Generally speaking, I thought Nina LaCour’s writing style was good. She kept the pacing very consistent, and the book was the right length. The story only lasts the course of three days, but it’s rare now to see YA contemporary under 350 pages, even if a lot of it is drivel, so I appreciate her concise storytelling style.

Outside of the style and rhythm of the book, there’s a little less to be excited about.

We Are Okay tells the story of how Marin ran away after being left alone and feeling betrayed. She’s depressed, and questioning everything about her life. Rather than reconcile the truth with the lies she’s been fed, she opts to disappear and remake herself in New York at college while half-heartedly fighting her depression and grief. I found Marin's motives a little weak for the extremity of her actions. She has problems, and it is sad, but the lengths she goes to in order to make this story tick are quite a lot and very well-orchestrated for someone who is as deep in shock as she appears to be. This may be my own ignorance talking, but when the “big reveal” came, I was neither surprised or impressed.

As far as characterization goes, Marin is… … well, she just is. She’s so walled off to everything – including the reader – that it difficult to develop an emotional attachment to her and be invested in her story. Additionally, she’s nothing new. A girl who is a bonafide orphan and raised by her grandfather is a trope we’ve seen again and again and again. I blame Heidi. I’ve grown to have such an appreciation for parents in YA books, because the message still seems to be that you can only have adventures if your parens are dead? Because it takes that much emotional trauma to make a strong enough character? Bleh.

The ending is very cheesy and very fairytale to me, but I think other readers will enjoy it. I was actively appreciating that LaCour seemed to be going for a not-perfectly-happy-ending because it seemed right for Marin. Not enough time passed between Mabel’s arrival and the teary-eyed ending to flow correctly within the parameters set by Mirin’s character. It’s full of heart, though, and I can appreciate that.

We Are Okay is probably not a book I would read again, and it’s likely no one I will think over for a long time. I appreciated individual scenes and Nina LaCour’s writing style is actually quite lovely, but there was nothing in this story to make me fall in love. This is a good one for those who enjoy the sweet, sad contemporaries.

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