You'll Miss Me When I'm Gone

by Rachel Lynn Solomon

Eighteen-year-old twins Adina, a viola prodigy, and Tovah, a future surgeon, find their relationship tested when they learn that one of them will develop Huntington's, the degenerative disease ravaging their mother.

• ISBN10: 1481497731
• ISBN13: 9781481497732
• Publish Date: 2 January 2018
• Publish Status: Active
• Publish Country: US
• Imprint: Simon & Schuster
• Format: Hardcover
• Pages: 384
• Language: English

Reviews

[Sam@WLABB]

This book had no choice but to be sad. I shed SO many tears for this entire family. I couldn't imagine watching my mother deteriorate from this horrible disease, while imagining that happening to me or my sister. Though having the story be about twins - one testing positive, one testing negative - was all sorts of tragic, it was a great way for Solomon to examine dealing with a positive diagnosis, as well as the dealing with being negative, but still being directly affected by HD.

Solomon did some interesting things in the story, giving each twin some wins and some losses. It was a nice way to balance it out. And, though this book was really heavy and heartbreaking at times, she ended it with a little hope.

This is my second Rachel Lynn Solomon book. I now firmly believe she will continue to make me cry buckets, and I will be looking forward to shedding many more tears for all her characters.

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[Bianca]

“You want me to keep speaking to you? Do this with me, and I will. I can’t promise that we’ll be close again, but one day I’m sure I’ll forgive you. But if you don’t take the test, Adina, you are dead to me.”

“You can’t be serious.”

But she was. Then came the three words that would characterize our relationship from that point forward: “You owe me.”

— An incredibly emotional read about the complex relationship between twin sisters dealing with a genetic illness diagnosis, of which only one of them tested positive. A story of family, forgiveness, and hope. A great debut by the author!

[layawaydragon]

>>Immediately engaging, like stayed up all night to finish it and did not see shit coming!
>>Loved both sisters for different reasons. They’re a study in contrast, but it’s not gimmicky. It didn’t feel forced or contrived at all.
>>Impressed with how the age-gap romance was handled. I haven’t see such a realistic and nuanced portrayal before.
>>There are some brutal, heart wrenching, and awkward moments that made me want to look away and will haunt me.
>>Love the sex positivity and talk of girls masturbating.
>>The ending is AMAZING. Feels like how it was always supposed to be, I just hadn’t realized it yet.

[shannonmiz]

You can find the full review and all the fancy and/or randomness that accompanies it at It Starts at Midnight

Gah, where do I even start, friends? So a lot of you know that I have been slumping, hard. For like, many months. And no book was able to really and truly "wow" me. Well, that is until I read You'll Miss Me When I'm Gone. Yep, Rachel Lynn Solomon, with her debut, no less, managed to break a slump that lasted the better part of a year. That is how good this book is. And now I am going to tell you why I felt that way!

• Obviously, this pulls at the heartstrings. I suppose that goes without saying when you're talking "book with terminal illness" but still. It wasn't all teary, though! I thought that the illness part was handled very realistically. Yes, it is a curse that hangs over this family's head every single day. It effects all of their lives immensely. But they also have other aspects of their lives, of their personalities. Still, you can't help but feel for each of them, as this disease is truly a horrific death sentence.
  


• Family. Just family. Not only do we have the incredibly complex relationship between sisters Tovah and Adina, but we have their interactions with their parents, and the interactions of the family as a unit. While each girl does have her own interests and daily lives, this is absolutely a family-centric novel through and through. Dealing with the slow, painful demise of their beloved mother haunts the girls in different ways, but they both are clearly grieving. And the parents, knowing that one of their daughters will also see this fate, well they were of course devastated. How does a family cope with something like this? That is the sort of question that this book beautifully tackles.
  


• The book is quite sex-positive.  I so wish this was around when I was a teen. The same feelings I had, the same questions I had, these girls had, and the book absolutely showcased their questions, their worries, their feelings as normal and valid. I also like that while sex is positive, the pitfalls and consequences are also discussed. It was such a good, responsible balance.
  


• The complexities of religion are also well handled. One sister is quite devout, and one has seen her faith lapse, but the author handled both situations with a lot of sensitivity, and was very clear that there is no "right" answer. Religion definitely had a central focus in the family, but it also was okay that one of the sisters had doubt and questions.
  


• Both sisters were so, so relatable. I saw bits of myself in both Tovah and Adina. At first, I admit I wasn't a fan of Tovah. But by the end of the book? I realized that the things I didn't like about Tovah were issues that I didn't like about myself, and for a book to make me see that kind of blew my mind. You can't not feel for these girls, no matter how much you do or don't have in common with them, because they're so very human, so they're relatable at their core.
  


• The writing was fabulous. I flew through this book, because it was emotive, but also because the writing simply blew me away.
  


• A lot of very difficult issues are tackled in this novel, including the Right-to-Die issue. I don't think I have ever seen that in Young Adult before, and the author handled it just as she did the other big issues- with grace and sensitivity, and completely judgment-free.
  

Bottom Line: This is going to be a book that I push on people all year, hell, all decade. It's simply that good.