In Renaissance art, Nancy Friday was struck by what she perceived as a beam of light between the eyes of Madonna and child, which is called "the gaze" in contemporary child psychology. Friday contends that if a person did not receive the gaze from mother and father, they will seek it for the rest of their life. The theme of this book is that we must come to terms with what we did not get from the gaze in order to make sure our children get it, thus creating healthy self-esteem and sexuality. In the post-feminist age, women have turned from the bra-less, shaven "beauty is a sell-out" stance to a new definition of comforted beauty. Friday traces the evolution of women's attitudes about their appearance, their sexuality, and their conflicting feelings about themselves and others. Through her own life story, and social commentary on subjects ranging from her grandfather's closet to the runaways of Paris, from feminist male-bashing to the emergence of a male sexual object, Friday once again offers a controversial work.
- ISBN10 0091777992
- ISBN13 9780091777999
- Publish Date 17 October 1996 (first published 1 May 1996)
- Publish Status Out of Print
- Out of Print 10 August 2021
- Publish Country GB
- Publisher Cornerstone
- Imprint Hutchinson
- Format Paperback
- Pages 589
- Language English