empressbrooke
Written on Jun 11, 2022
So I was already primed to be annoyed with her, but every story she tells about herself made her look terrible. She starts off the book admitting to relentlessly stalking a therapist who did not want to take her on as a client. When talking about her awful, exhausting, highly dramatic and volatile college friends, she relays a conversation she had with one while writing this book where she wanted to include information about the friend's traumatic past, and the friend didn't want her to. She admits to pressing her friend and arguing with her and trying to get her friend to relent - and it just seemed so bonkers to me that in a book that criticizes Whiteness and the Western world for colonizing and stealing from other countries, she wanted to colonize and steal from her friend's past AND SHOWED NO AWARENESS OF THIS IRONY. While she seemed to look back at the therapist incident and somewhat acknowledge it was not her finest moment, she showed zero embarrassment about pressuring her friend. And in a third chapter, she wanted to write about an author's rape and murder and stated that she had been told that there wasn't much reporting on it already because no one wanted to re-traumatize the family. So what does she do? Calls up the family and asks them questions about their loved one's rape and murder! She claims that the family member she spoke to was happy to talk to her, but given her pattern here I am not sure how reliable that statement is.
Ultimately, it was jarring to read a book about oppression and social justice and come away with so many examples of the author taking from others (even more ironically, all three examples were other Asian Americans she was taking from) to enrich herself.