Breaking Hearts

by Roy F. Baumeister and Sara R Wotman

Published 9 December 1992

Throughout history, unrequited love has inspired ballads, arias, poetry, drama, and literature. Almost always, however, the tale of the "star-crossed lovers" has been told from the point of view of the heartbroken pursuer. This illuminating new work explores unrequited love from both sides
Blending scientific research with vivid narrative, the book utilizes current psychological theories about relationships, interdependence, attachment, and communication to provide careful analysis of the sometimes amusing and often heart-rending stories people tell from their love lives. Demolishing pat theories about human fulfillment coming from loving or being loved, this valuable counterweight to traditional studies explores the other, darker side of love to show that it is the mutuality of affection that is crucial to happiness.
This book will be of interest to social scientists interested in marriage, family issues, emotion, self esteem, guilt, and human coping will find the book illuminating. It will also be of interest to anyone who has experienced unrequited love.