How to Love and be Loved

by Paul A. Hauck

Published 3 November 1983
This text explains how relationships develop, how they can go wrong, and how they can be improved. This book shows that to gain respect, admiration and love requires more than kindness, patience and tolerance. Romantic notions of love are often misleading and if we "spoil" people we may end up by no longer loving them. It argues that loving relationships are better when they contain an element of assertiveness. Hauck is the author of "How to Stand Up for Yourself", "Calm Down, Why Be Afraid?" and "Making Marriage Work".

Calm Down

by Paul A. Hauck

Published 6 November 1980
How do you react to situations which don't run according to plan? How do you cope with people who won't do things your way? Do you let life's frustrations build up inside you until you explode with anger? If so, your reactions may backfire and make you ill and unhappy, and prevent you from dealing effectively with the problem. This book provides advice on how to control anger and to handle life's frustrations, explaining how to understand feelings and reactions to them. Once an undertstanding of the problem is achieved, a change of direction can occur.

This guide is for anyone who has ever felt they are not living life to the full. It advises how to improve self-discipline, discover hidden talents and bring out the best in yourself. To reach hidden talents, the book recommends destroying two self-defeating thoughts: 1) it is easier to avoid a difficult task than to face it; 2) if you can't do something right don't do it at all. Case histories are used to illustrate the damaging effects of these two ideas.

Giving in to other people all the time only leads to feelings of resentment; and when you do make a stand, you may feel guilty. This book advises how to get rid of such feelings and feel good about standing up for yourself, without taking advantage of other people.