I'm quitting this book - I recently read another marriage book and the difference between them could not be more distinct. While the other book - which I loved - was full of practical advice and ways to look at your marriage from a healthy perspective, this book talks down to you, assumes your marriage is awful, and places responsiblity for repair all on whoever is reading the book, literally saying things like "if your spouse had difficulty living up to the standards you have set for him or her the real problem is that you are being judgemental." Seeing as my marriage is doing decent and the other book showed me great ways to improve our marriage (and showed science behind it, rather than the experience of someone who had a failed marriage), I'm quitting this one and moving on to something else for my daily self-improvement read.